Bondage Fetish. Discover the Joys of Bondage.

How bondage works for those who enjoy it.

Bondage simply restricts the movement of a person. Many people have explored “tie and tease” and discovered it to be an exciting way to spice up their sex life.

bondage1The most important aspect of bondage games is the word TRUST.

Why should you Trust someone?

The best reason is this;  when a partner is restricted, he or she is very vulnerable and you must be able to trust one another completely; otherwise these kinds of games should never be played.

The active partner (or ‘top’) should never use the session purely to fulfil their own fantasies in a selfish way.  They should also think about the pleasure of the restrained partner (‘passive partner’ or ‘bottom’).

[su_heading size=”24″]What Is It About Bondage That Attracts So Many People?[/su_heading]

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People are attracted to this type of play for a number of different reasons. Being tied up allows some people to relax and enjoy being given pleasure without having to worry about giving pleasure back to their partner at the same time.

Others prefer to play-struggle against their restraints, and say it builds up an exciting adrenaline rush. Being blindfolded is supposed to heighten other sensations in the body. The person performing the bondage gets increased feelings of personal power, but of course this must never be abused.

bondage-2First-time fun ideas:

Some things that first-timers can try out include:

  • Taking turns to tie each other up with silk scarves and tease one another;
  • Tie the passive partner up with something that can easily be broken out of  such as paper streamers, or a really thin chain. Then they only have to stay in that position if they want to be there;
  • Blindfolding during sex, massage, or kissing;
  • Furry lovecuffs – handcuffs that are padded with fake fur on the inside to prevent chafing, and can’t close too far (which cuts off the circulation).

bondage-furry-handcuffsSafety tips:

These are several safety issues to consider when playing bondage games, concerning consent, abuse, and physical injuries. If you don’t feel safe with something then don’t do it, there are hundreds of other things you can do instead.   Meet other people who are also into fetishes.

  • This is NOT something you explore with a stranger.  You really don’t know whether they are trustworthy or not until you know them better, however charming they may seem at first.
  • Never let a partner coerce or bully you into any sexual practice that you don’t want to do. It’s perfectly OK to say no, a decent lover will understand.
  • Talk about it beforehand and discuss what you plan to do. Say what you will or will not allow. These rules and limits are sacred and must not be broken during the game.
  • Create a safe word agreed before you begin. This is something that the passive partner can say if they want the other person to stop, a common safe word is ‘enough’. The active partner must then stop what they are doing immediately, and release the passive partner within seconds.
  • Never tie something around someone’s neck unless it is a collar that’s specially made for the purpose. There is a high risk of tissue damage, choking, or fatal strangulation. Similarly, gags are potentially dangerous.
  • If someone is tied up, they must never be left alone. The active partner must make sure they are comfortable, breathing properly, and that nothing is cutting off their circulation.
  • Do not try bondage in a remote place, just in case there is an accident that leaves the active partner injured and the passive partner tied up with no way of getting help.
  • If you’ve never tried bondage before, don’t go straight into anything that uses complicated equipment. This is for experts only and has extra safety issues that you may not understand.
  • The rules of safer sex still apply. Use condoms for penetrative sex. Drink and drugs can cause you to seriously underestimate safety risks. Avoid intoxication.

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