What are swingers? The swinging lifestyle has been growing like crazy in the past few years.
This is a great video that helps to explain the swinging lifestyle. This unique video illustrates the lifestyle’s popularity and is growing acceptance. Swinging couples are interviewed about their thoughts and opinions.
What are swingers? This is great blog post because it fully explains swinging and swinger couples. This blog clears up any misunderstandings for those (who are not involved).
Nearly every swinging couple will tell you the swinging philosophy will enhance and bond a couple – not separate them. However, nearly all swinging couples will tell you this is not for everyone and it will not fix an already broken marriage.
Swinging is based on mutual love, respect and trust. A great place to explore and meet other swingers in a relax atmosphere. Meet new friends who share like -minds.
The Do’s and Don’ts of Swinging: Even Swingers Have Rules!
Although the majority of swinging may end up involving SEX with each other’s partners, it isn’t all about just the sex. To many swinging couples it’s about creating some sort of bond or friendship as well.
Many swingers feel it important to create a rapport with another couple or person before any type of sexual activity occurs. Most swingers, contrary to the public belief, are not a bunch of wild animals. They usually choose their other sexual partners very carefully.
Swingers can differentiate between sexual fun, friendship and the love the have for their own partner. The love and companionship provided by their existing relationship is most important.
Most swinging couples have their own rules they follow and are usually very loyal to their rules and this is what makes their swinging experiences fun, safe and increases the bond between them.
Swingers may have many sexual relationships, however ONLY one deeply emotional relationship exists. Although close intimate friendships are developed within their swinging community, most swingers often feel nothing is more important than their own partner’s feelings and emotional well being.
The friendships and companionship among swingers will usually strengthen the main and primary aspect of the relationship rather than damage it.
How can Swinging help your Relationship?
This is a good question. Swingers may claim the sex is more intimate because they are with a partner who encourages them to fulfill their fantasies and they feel safe doing it. Swingers do not need to worry if they will be judged or ridiculed for being WHO they are.
Swingers feel safe that jealousy will not be an issue and their bond is strong. Swingers also agree that swinging makes infidelity or cheating less likely, as they know they can have physical contact with others with their partner’s consent. Most swingers agree that cheating is only when their partner secretly has sex behind their back.
Most swinging couples defines cheating as long as they stay within their boundaries, no cheating would occur.
Another common response to moral and philosophical objections is that there is a difference between physical sex and the loving bond between the couple. Contradictorily, this is one of the objections that religious groups usually have is both physical sex and love should be the same. Swinging couples disagree.
The Do’s and Don’ts of Swinging
Be truthful and honest when you talk or share your feelings with your partner. If you feel jealous of your partner, or have any other uncomfortable feelings about the whole sexual step make sure to share this with your partner. If you don’t share your feelings, the resentment will happen and it could be damaging.
Swinging clubs and private swinger parties are very popular within the swinging community. These are places where you can leave your inhibitions at home, both physical and social. Just use your common sense. It’s important to be polite, gracious and accept the boundaries of others.
As you get acquainted with other nice coupes, it will become easier and you’ll feel safer as the more experiences you enjoy. Do your best to meet and greet others with like-minds and try your best to be active in conversation, dancing, games or other activities.
Stay close to your partner but not in a too clingy or acting like you’re being extremely protective. This obvious protective manner will create a signal to others that you may not be a “safe” couple to play with. Safe sex is usually practiced among swinging couples.
Don’t be Pushy in When it Comes to Swinging.
A good method to follow is this; Go as fast as the slowest person in the group. Never force yourself on anyone. No always means no. Do not ever try to persuade a person to do something ONLY you want to do.
Nobody should try to persuade their partner to do something they do not want to do. This will only create division in your relationship. Swinging is about you and your partner equally enjoying the experience.
What is a “ticket” ?
A ticket is someone you take to a swingers club or party just so they can watch and not interested in seriously being active. OR a single man can be called a ticket.
Taking a single man to a party just so he can have free sex with other men’s wives. Some swingers condone “tickets” and some swinging couples do not.
Don’t disturb the swinging pleasures of others. Don’t be rude to others and be as gentle and gracious as possible. Giving almost strangers personal information about yourself is not necessary and not recommended.
You should be upfront about what you like and don’t like and your desires. Don’t cross boundaries of others.
Are you sure about Swinging? What are swingers?
Swinging is not for every person or for every couple. Everyone has issues of some kind. This is why a couple must set up boundary rules.
The only way to do this is to have a serous and honest discussion about jealousy, self-esteem and other relationship problems or issues. Discuss what could happen that might not be acceptable to the other.
Discuss different scenarios that might trigger a negative feeling in you. Make sure you and your loving partner discuss all of this stuff before ever exploring other people in a swinging activity.
If any of these areas are of major concern to either person, then chances are, as a couple, you should not explore swinging until these problems are resolved.
Are you really a swinger?
It is to be noted that swinging is to enhance your already bonded relationship, not to repair or fix it. Swinging is about a loving couple who both are interested in strengthening their bond as a couple while exploring physical sex and intimacy with other coupes of like-minds.
Swinging provides sexual variety, adventure, and the opportunity to live out fantasies as a couple without secrecy and deceit.
Nobody should ever join a swinging community and use that as an excuse to cheat on your partner. Obviously, after reading this post, you know “Cheating” or deceiving your significant other is not the actual philosophy of almost all swinging couples.
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Swingers Definitely Have Rules and Boundaries! Contrary to the public belief that Swingers are Nothing but Wild Animals, this is NOT true.
Many swinging couples are well educated people and are extremely family oriented. Traditional couples who do not believe in swinging have a 52% divorce rate in America. Mostly due to infidelity or in other words – one or the other cheating or was caught deceiving their partner. Less than 2% of swinging couples end in divorce.
The fact is; Swinging couples have well-adjusted children and they are often taught how to have good character, integrity, honor, respect and loyalty.
Most swinging couples rarely discuss their sex life with their children. Why? Because the sex life of the parents is not of any concern to the children. Just like most healthy-minded traditional couples seldom discuss their sex life with their children.
Sex is an adult topic and usually is not discussed with children until they are of an appropriate age and even then it is NONE of their business.
Swinging couples seldom discuss swinging with their children because sex is a private matter between the parents. Isn’t this the way it should be? A great place to meet other couples of swinger like-minds is here.
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